It’s about drawing up short and not getting the full impact of the tip. I can use the tip and leave almost no mark. It’s pretty irritating though. When I first caned I always tried to land the lower half, avoid wrapping. For some bottoms I’ve made full impact a reward. There are so many aspects to experiment with, which is what I like about canes. I’ve caned for about ten years. I decided to do stories rather than memoir so I can develop a relationship arc, examine the emotional aspects more. I’ve been on fet off and on because just too many men to deal with for my liking lol.